FRIEND THERAPY with D!NK & S!NK
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Your friends, D!NK & S!NK, helping you heal through community and laughter. We discuss unconventional topics, unpopular opinions, brave lifestyles and real life experiences.
FRIEND THERAPY with D!NK & S!NK
Everything is Workoutable (Navigating Life) (Ep 1)
As two friends in our 30s, we are sharing the raw, unfiltered reality of living outside society's traditional expectations.
Kristine (the D!NK - Dual Income, No Kids) embraces marriage without children, while Wioleta (the S!NK - Single Income, No Kids) navigates perpetual singleness with unwavering standards. Our bond? An authentic friendship that provides the therapy we both need.
The statistics don't lie - we're witnessing a shift in American households. A record 58.4% now consist of adults without children, yet the judgment persists. "When are you having kids?" for Kristine. "Maybe you're just too picky" for Wioleta. We create a judgment-free zone where unconventional choices are celebrated, not questioned.
Through vulnerable conversations about rebuilding self-worth after toxic relationships, the healing power of laughter, and our philosophy that "it's just fish" (their code for "this won't ruin your day"), Kristine and Wioleta offer practical wisdom from our distinct life paths. We share a simple practice towards the end of the episode that transformed our mental clarity and physical health, and invite you to experience its profound benefits.
Whether you're childless by choice or circumstance, married or single, we welcome you into a community where your life decisions aren't misunderstood but embraced. Join us weekly for authentic conversations that validate your experience and remind you that the unconventional path might just be the most fulfilling one.
Connect with us at friendtherapythepod@gmail.com or through DMs on our social platforms to share your story of living outside society's expectations.
Welcome to another episode of Friend Therapy with Dink and Sink. I am Christine the Dink and I am Violeta the Sink.
Speaker 1:Christine sometimes calls me Violet. We're so happy that you're here.
Speaker 2:We are so excited to help you navigate being a Dink or a Sink.
Speaker 1:Stay tuned at the end of the episode for how you can reach us. We would love to hear from you and have you be a part of the podcast.
Speaker 2:Welcome to Friend Therapy with Dink and Sink. I'm Christine, I'm Violeta, all right. So a little bit about Dink and Sink. Dink means dual income no kids. Sink means single income no kids. We've been friends for many years.
Speaker 1:I'm very blessed to have you a part of my life.
Speaker 2:It's been a great journey and, honestly, we've blossomed into something amazing where we support one another. So a little bit about why we're doing this podcast. I'm married now for a little over six years, but together for about 15 years.
Speaker 1:I'm single, no husband. I do have a cat who's sitting right there, but you guys can see him if you're watching this.
Speaker 2:He's our number one fan, right now, he's definitely not a fan. No, he's enjoying it because he's at peace.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's. True, that's true.
Speaker 2:So a little bit about why we're doing this podcast is because with me, I live a very unhinged, unconventional lifestyle. With me, I live a very unhinged, unconventional lifestyle. Conventional lifestyle Meaning that I pave my own wave, I set my own path, I set my own direction and I don't follow society's traditions at all and so far I've been living my life to the fullest. I'm in my mid-30s now and I'm just loving the direction that life has been taking me up to this point.
Speaker 1:I'm in my mid-late 30s and single, and I've been perpetually single for a long time and Christine knows obviously I tend to get very lonely quite often, especially the last few years, Because, like I, want a family.
Speaker 1:I want to get married, I want to have kids, but for some reason God doesn't want that yet for me. So it's nice to hang out with friends and we figured that we could hang out together, you know. So this gives me a reason to hang out with a friend, gives us both some therapy, because we can talk about the things that are going on in our lives and I think it's kind of great because we leverage out each other tremendously.
Speaker 2:If I'm going through something, you know how to pull me out. When you're going through something, I feel like I can help you out of that dark time. And, yeah, what brings us close together is being super goofy, having a great time and just fucking laughing excuse my language, but just laughing at ourselves just gets us far.
Speaker 1:It really does, though I think I'm also like just trying to find like my purpose too. I'm not saying that kids are the only purpose you can have, but I definitely would like to have them. To me that would be some kind of purpose, but again, I don't have that yet. I want to see what else is out there for me.
Speaker 2:I agree. So far, I feel like you've been living life amazingly, even as a friend, you know, and us in our travels and our experiences so far under our belts. It's just been so fun and I don't want that ride to stop, no matter what.
Speaker 1:No matter what, no and it wouldn't, it wouldn't stop. But yeah, we just got to go with what you know life has given us.
Speaker 2:Basically, yeah, you make the, you make the best of it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's all we do yeah, and I definitely have some ideas too, that I want to like put out into the world. I used to be a teacher before. I do have a very good day job, but I also want to do more things that are for me. I don't want to just teach like a curriculum. I want to teach people all the things that I've learned, especially women in their 20s or 30s yes, especially those of you guys who are single, especially perpetually single, and dating is very difficult nowadays, nowadays, and it's always been difficult, but it's definitely gotten more difficult.
Speaker 2:I would say so, especially with the social media and all the apps and stuff I mean I have. Let's be honest, I haven't been single in many years, but for what I see, what my friends go through, it seems very, very tough these days.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's just not the same how you would just meet somebody in person no, it's not more of apps, social media and that's a lot of ways people connect, but it's not always like the grass is greener on the other side from that. Yeah, that's true, I think. Well, I mean, in person you have your challenges, but online you also have your challenges as well.
Speaker 1:Yeah, oh, for for sure, For sure. So we're going to post this up. You'll see it on the video. I did find statistics from the Census Bureau that talks about US households and how they've changed from 1960 to 2023. The census only comes out what every four years. About so, yeah, every four years, we don't know. No, seriously, it is about three to four years. Yeah, it's probably every 10 years.
Speaker 2:It might be every 10 years, but anyhow, every year it comes out. I would say for me, being a dink, there's not many of us out there. A lot of people do get married. They do have a family, so my life is very different. So I am married. Um, I didn't get married traditionally. I got married in fiji with my husband and it was just us two Came back, had a reception with our close friends and family, so we don't live traditionally at all. So my purpose is to give back to people who want to live the lifestyle that I live, but they're too scared to do it. So that's why I'm here. Hopefully my purpose can be to motivate you to live that life and I'm here to guide you along the way.
Speaker 1:But back to your statistics so, as of 2023, 20% of people are married with no kids. So that's you guys. Yeah, just kidding, I'm reading this wrong. Oh, back in 1960 it was 30.1 percent. Yeah, now it's down to 29.4 percent. Single no kids. So me. It used to be at 13.1 percent in 1960, now it's up all the way up to 29 percent. So the married no kids really hasn't changed that much, which is also kind of crazy, which I'm really surprised, because back then I felt like everything was family based.
Speaker 2:I know Homemaker mom stays at home. Times were not as tough as they are obviously today, when there's only a one income household. Now it's a two income household, but I'm surprised to see that stat for 1960 to 2023. I honestly thought there would have been an astronomical jump I agree.
Speaker 1:I definitely also think that wow. And then this does say that a record 58.4 percent of american households now consist of married or single adults without children. So because there's more single, no kids people, it basically added to that. So our types of households together are higher than the other types of households, which is also crazy yeah, just by a tiny bit right a little bit.
Speaker 1:But then in 1960 you had 44.2 percent of married parents, compared to now, in 2023, 17.9 percent, which is that's a high number. Yeah, that's a huge number. And then single parents in 1960 was 4.4 percent and now is 7.4 percent and others so. Households with unmarried partners, roommates or adult relatives used to be 8.1 percent and now it's up to 16.3 percent so things have changed.
Speaker 2:Why do you think that is? Why do you think the number two for married parents went from 44.2 percent to 17.9?
Speaker 1:I think a lot of people are just aren't getting married. I know people are having kids, but not actually.
Speaker 2:Yeah, they're cohabitating, they're not like they don't need that paperwork, you know, and that's all right. Yeah, if that's what they want to do go with it. Everybody's lifestyle is different, as long as you know, and that's all right. If that's what they want to do, go with it.
Speaker 1:Everybody's lifestyle is different. As long as you're actually happy, that's all that matters. That's your life.
Speaker 2:And if that's the way you want to live, amen, good for you. I support you if you're happy. I agree.
Speaker 1:So in this segment we do want to talk about just things regarding things or things. There's a lot of like a kind of stigma still. Even though statistics are changing, there's still some stigma around our kinds of lifestyles.
Speaker 1:But I definitely when I was growing up and I was very picky with who I was dating, which is why I would be single a lot of the times. You know, when we were like in our early 20s, back then it still wasn't as common for people, at least none of my friends. You guys were all like in relationships and I wasn't. But now things are getting a little bit different, where that they do know more people who are like me, single and, yeah, not married, don't have kids, whether it's of choice or they're forced into it, kind of like me, because I just can't, haven't found my person yet and again, I'm not gonna settle but don't settle.
Speaker 2:No, I'm so happy you haven't. Yeah, it's the worst thing someone can do.
Speaker 1:Yes, but I just do think that a lot of times, you know, I haven't felt seen and heard by some of my friends who are in relationships, you know, because a lot of times they're a they haven't dated, so they truly don't know what it's like. I mean.
Speaker 2:Yes, of course you guys can somewhat understand what I tell you, but it's still, once you go through the experience especially if you're talking to one of us who's going who it has been in a relationship and giving you unsolicited advice. It might not be the right advice.
Speaker 1:Yes, yeah, and a lot of times it's not the right advice and and I know people mean well, but sometimes it's like I just, it's like I just want to be seen, I just want to be heard, it's like hey, just listen to me.
Speaker 1:That's all I want. Yes, yeah, and I know there's plenty of you guys out there who also are living some kind of a life and you're probably not heard or seen by your friends, and we would like to at some point have a little segment where you guys do call in and tell us about the stories of how your friends or family aren't fully understanding you. They're fully not, maybe allowing you to fit in because you're living a little bit of a different lifestyle, or, again, they're just not understanding what it's like to be married.
Speaker 2:I can relate to you, you know, as being married. I just want to touch on that as well. Yeah, Sometimes I don't feel seen or heard because I don't have kids and sometimes, you know, just the outside world judges me for that. They're like, oh, when are you guys going to have kids? And I'm like I actually don't know if we will. And they're like, oh, okay, and that's it. So I kind of feel like I get shunned. Yeah, in a way like it's an expectation, like hey, when you get married, you have a family.
Speaker 2:It's not the same for everybody. Everybody kind of goes through a different walk of life, you know, and sometimes it does get a little challenging and it makes me question, like, am I doing the right thing? And it doesn't make me feel good when I don't have that support because I kind of have to navigate it through. I deal with it internally myself. I don't have a lot of people that relate with me. Majority of my friends who get married have kids. I think I'm the only one. I think I know like two other people that are married with no kids. But mine is a choice. Mine is a choice because I live a very unhinged, unconventional, adventurous life and I'm no disrespect, don't call it unhinged.
Speaker 1:You live a very healthy life, you're right.
Speaker 2:You're right, I do, I do, but you know, with that being said, if there's people out there like me, I would love to hear how you live your life and maybe we have similarities or we can help each other out with that, because we do get judged. I'm judged all the time. They're like why don't you just get divorced if you're not going to have kids? Sometimes you don't want to be divorced because you're really enjoying the life you have established with your partner, because we're both on the same page, and what's wrong with that?
Speaker 1:we're happy, that's all. That matters nothing, absolutely nothing. Okay, yeah, so let's go into our next segment. Yes, so this is the hill I'll die on. I think I do have a lot of unconventional opinions, but I know I wholeheartedly believe in. I think the only people that can change ourselves is ourselves. I think in our society we tend to push that every time somebody has an issue, it's always like oh, go see a therapist. Therapy by a therapist is just a tool. It's not necessary in certain situations.
Speaker 1:Some situations it might be so again, it's just a tool, and I know we both and this is why we even came up with this name of this as friend therapy, with think and sink is because we do believe that through community, through friendships, through talking, through issues, through being seen and heard, you can have your community, you can have your friends help make you feel seen and heard 100 and that was one of the reasons why we wanted to name it the way that we named it.
Speaker 1:Maybe if you guys don't have that community, you know we're here for you. You know we want to be some kind of a community for baby people who don't have that community absolutely.
Speaker 2:I like to touch base on that as well. I know people who will tell me oh, did you ever want to try therapy? Just for what I do in my line of work and things like that, I feel like the best therapy and. I feel pretty healthy is getting the therapy that I need is just talking with my friends, especially you, violet. I feel like even from our Boston trip, the reason that we took in October of 2024, it was a great great trip.
Speaker 1:We like to travel a lot.
Speaker 2:Yes, but we try to at least once a year. I know it's not been consistent every year with taking up one girls trip a year. I don't know what it is, just talking with your girlfriends, you know, just, you're relatable, you see, and you hear me a lot. And just getting that advice from you, or just my other friends or community, like you said, yeah, that's all I need. Or just my other friends or community, like you said, that's all I need, and I feel like that's just what I need is just to have somebody listen to what I'm going through and just being emotional with my friends, that just makes me feel like a million dollars and I feel like I don't really need a therapist to do that.
Speaker 2:You have to explain who you are. You really have to build that relationship. I feel more comfortable because I've already built a relationship with my friends than talking to a stranger for an hour. I just feel more comfortable talking with my friends about things Because my friends truly know me. They know my life, my childhood traumas, the way I was raised. That makes it much more special and it makes me feel more comfortable and I feel like I can trust you guys a lot more. Yeah.
Speaker 2:You know, me, you know me, you know my childhood traumas. I know your childhood traumas and how you were raised, yeah, so like we have a lot of ways that we can connect on a different level than most people can Correct, and, like you're saying, it's already been built.
Speaker 1:That relationship is built.
Speaker 2:You see me at my worst. You see me at my most ugliest. You see me at my most joyous, my most happiest. You never left. You know that's like a great friend to have decided. That's just what I admire about you. You never left. Same with you. Yeah, okay, I just I like to throw out a few friend therapy questions of the day.
Speaker 2:All right, and this is more going to be focused on you all right, boy, okay well I just want to say, because I've seen you go through turmoil with some relationships you had in the past and you went through some dark times, and just where I've seen you grow from the years past and where you are today is just astronomical. I just want to ask for people who maybe went through what you went through how did you get yourself out of that dark place by yourself? That's hard. A lot of people probably went through that and don't know how to navigate and how to get healthy.
Speaker 1:Are you talking about my bad relationships?
Speaker 2:Yeah, One bad relationship too. What you went through and how did you get out of that. Is there any tips or advice? Oh my, really bad one yeah For people.
Speaker 1:Hmm, very good question. Very complex question, I'm sorry.
Speaker 2:I hope I didn't throw too much. I know it's totally fine. I just look up to you because you're so fucking mentally strong and I love it. That's why, like, you're my best friend.
Speaker 1:So oh, thank you. Honestly, I don't feel like I've ever been in a good, good relationship. All my relationships have been getting better because I have been doing a lot of like healing work and I hate using the word healing yeah to basically better myself, like you're saying, taking care of your needs. I used to not really get into relationships. My first long-term relationship was when I was what 25. I actually remember one of my relatives just telling me how I'm too picky and I took that too hard because, again, I wasn. I was in long-term relationships.
Speaker 1:And a lot of people at that point have been in relationships and I wasn't Like I just I'm just very unlucky in that sense, like I really A I'm very picky, but I'm also just unlucky right, there's some amount of luck that goes into meeting a partner.
Speaker 2:I also believe that two people are meant to meet. It's not like it was by accident.
Speaker 1:I agree, and even that two people are meant to meet. It's not like it was by accident, I agree. And even the bad ones, and I feel like all of my relationships were a lesson. Again, the one really bad relationship I was cheated on a lot by the dude and again, going back to what my relative said, how I was too picky, and that's after that, I like took that too hard and I was like maybe I'm just too picky, maybe it is a problem with me, and that's when I met that ex-boyfriend who was a horrible, horrible boyfriend. But again, I took that too hard and I was like, okay, maybe I do need to just settle. And that was the very first relationship that I learned no, you do not need to settle. You should never, ever settle. Like you're never too picky. I hear people tell you that you're too picky unless okay, maybe, unless you know you need somebody who's like six foot tall yeah, okay, then maybe you're a little too picky, okay, yeah, then you're too picky like unrealistic expectations.
Speaker 1:Those are completely, but I also do agree that you do need to be attracted to the person too, though oh, I agree a wholeheartedly.
Speaker 2:Attraction is number one.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it should be it literally is, but I also think it's just biological, like I think that we are just attracted to what we're attracted to you can't help.
Speaker 2:It just fucking sucks you in. Sorry, yeah, you can feel like it's over.
Speaker 1:Well, but then also. But then after. That, though, is when you need to also make sure that you're not just interested in the person because you're sexually attractive, correct that it's also that they're a good fit for you, yeah, but you don't learn that until you actually start dating them, until you start seeing who they are as a person. After each one of my relationships, I once I got out of them and even in them I was like no, this isn't right for me. But then I would stick it out, because I felt like, because I was young, I love this person, but it wasn't.
Speaker 2:I'm gonna stick by my man.
Speaker 1:I didn't realize that, hey, they're just not compatible and that I can do better and I just don't think my self-worth was where it should have been. But then, after every one of them, once it was done, I was just done and that's. Instead of jumping into another relationship, I would focus on improving my own self-esteem, self-worth. You really did and I love. So I will say that I definitely, um did lean on a lot of like books, so books by some psychologists, books by some philosophers, so things, even social media.
Speaker 1:I just basically was like, no, I'm not gonna jump into another person, which is what a lot of people tend to do. I was like, no, I'm not gonna jump into another person, which is what a lot of people tend to do. I was like, nope, I'm gonna, I'm gonna figure my shit out because I know I don't deserve that and I'm never gonna put myself back into that place where I am with somebody who doesn't deserve me 100%. But I need to leave. And that's also what I've learned, because a lot of people don't take that accountability. It's always oh, the person was horrible and you know it's all their fault. But also you stayed.
Speaker 1:You know, and so now I know better, Like I don't stay in bad relationships.
Speaker 2:It's expiration date anymore. Amazing that you know when to leave, Even if emotions are involved. You know even when you love the person but when you know the person isn't good for you and having the courage and strength to leave.
Speaker 1:that's just amazing and it's so hard and it's very hard but yeah, but it's.
Speaker 2:But you know what you know when your time is done and that's amazing. So I look up to you for that and it's great oh, this is gonna make me cry, it's all right, it's all right to be emotional here and there, okay it, it's just fish.
Speaker 2:Alright, so I'm going to tell you about how it's just fish God establish. You took me out for my birthday we're in Lamont and they had this fish of the day and this lady who was our server just sold this plate to me. I was like, oh my god, I forgot what fish it was.
Speaker 2:It was like sea bass or something. It was like a wild caught sea bass, like give it to me, it sounds amazing. So I got the sea bass. It was amazing. But then during the night we went out and had some fun and I used this. I'm like we were talking about our problems. I'm like Violet, it's just fish, it's just fish. And she's like, oh my God, that's hilarious. It's just fish means if it's something good or something bad that's happening in your life. So we like to always say, when something that is not going to ruin your day, we just say it's just fish, it's nothing, we're going to overcome this, it's all right, it's just fish. It is just fish.
Speaker 2:We assumption it that way, yep, and it is just fish.
Speaker 1:Yes, that way, yep and it is just fish. Yes, so I do want to talk to you about what's been going on with you the last couple of weeks since. Well, I what? I saw you two weeks ago.
Speaker 2:Yeah, two weeks ago, yeah so what's new with me is I I am interning right now at a warehouse gym. I'm learning functional style training. So on the side of what I do for my professional work, and right now I'm interning at a gym and it's a completely different style of workouts that I do. So that's been a little challenging because I'm trying to get with it and just the way they go about working out. I don't know if you guys ever heard of functional style training before, but it's using a lot of your body weight. You're using kettle balls, you're doing push-ups and pull-ups and just using a lot of force. I'm really enjoying it. It's definitely like a challenge for me. So that's what's kind of my. It's just fish. Lately it's just being super focused with that. So I've been getting up at 3.30 in the morning so that I could be at the gym at 4.30 to about 6.
Speaker 2:I leave and then I get to work, then I come home and then I try to get my workout in. And also, too, my husband. He has a new job location and unfortunately, just the community has just been really tough on him. It's pretty far, it's over like an hour, so that's been a little challenge too. But you know we're going to overcome this and you know we're gonna overcome this and you know it's there's nothing that we can't handle. So my life's just been a little chaotic because I work Monday through Friday, just trying to fit in my internship, my workouts, because I enjoy working out, it's a big thing of my life. So just trying to overcome that, just trying to get my groove, yeah, into that, and everything's workoutable that's another word that we have workoutable.
Speaker 2:Yeah, everything is workoutable, anything that's thrown at your life or my life and yep, it's always been able to work out, so everything is workoutable. Yep, and that's what we're doing right now yeah, um how about you? What's what's new in your life?
Speaker 1:I did my very first comedy stand-up set. That was. It was wild. I was very nervous and I kept saying the word um a lot. But that's okay, I'll get better. I was very nervous and I kept saying the word um a lot, but that's okay.
Speaker 2:I'll get better. I'm probably saying um a ton. Yeah, I mean, I'm sure I am too.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but it honestly wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to go, which is positive, and I think I had some good jokes. Obviously, I'll have to tweak them a little bit. You are pretty funny, so Thank you, I'm sure they were great.
Speaker 2:We just gotta find out who's funnier wow I don't know.
Speaker 1:We both are pretty funny we are both. I think we're both hilarious we're. That just depends on the time, for sure, for sure, and like what we're going through in our life.
Speaker 2:Yes, yes, it impacts on us although I think I'm better.
Speaker 1:I think I'm funnier about my life when shit's going really bad. Actually, you know, yeah, you are pretty funny at this. I do actually believe that laughter heals you. And that's another. Oh my god, yes, that's another thing that like therapists don't agree with.
Speaker 2:Let's talk about that. I think, it does heal you. Oh my god, it's been healing me, and I'll talk about that a little bit later yeah, that's like my biggest thing is I finally.
Speaker 1:I'm so proud of you.
Speaker 2:That's awesome.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I shouldn't say finally, because I literally just got the idea of doing that like three months ago. But the one friend that I went with, he kept telling me about how anytime I put my mind to something, anytime I want to do something, I actually end up doing it. We've been showing up and sticking to our plans. Yes, yeah, and so I'm glad that that's another thing that I did, that I followed up with and I'm going to keep doing it. I want to do it a few more times to kind of see if I like it and if I want to keep it as a hobby and we'll see.
Speaker 2:That's all you can do. Just go with the flow and see what's next. Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 1:I agree every one these episodes. We do want to end with things that have worked for us, that we would love if you guys try it out, because they're very simple things, yes, but they do make a huge difference. We both lead pretty decently healthy lives. I know you are definitely more into working out, and I do work out. It's not something I do as consistently as you do.
Speaker 2:And that's okay, because there's many different forms of styles to workouts correct. So as long as you're just living a healthy life, that's what matters. I agree everyone's schedule and workouts and routines are so different, yeah, from one another but it doesn't mean that you're not as healthy as I am no, I'm not, I'm well I'm.
Speaker 1:I don't think I am, but. But that's okay, I'm not, that's totally fine. But overall, though, I do think that both of us were pretty good at improving our lives in general, so this is something that has actually improved my life, I think, the most out of all the things I've done, and it's the simplest thing ever. It's just walking, and I walk a ton, ton, like. I walk about like 15,000 steps every day, depending on the day.
Speaker 1:Of course, there's some days when I'm not as energetic or don't have the time or I'm too busy, whatever the case might be, but overall, though, it's literally simple walking, and I do do it out in nature, so you're actually outside and I think that's also key because that also helps just your mental health, really, but it also helps you lose weight too, like it does the few times where, like I have put on some weight, every time I lost it not just by going to the gym, but literally just walking a ton, and I think people don't realize how much impactful walking really is.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, and I think it also helps your creativity. I do a very creative type of a job and it literally as soon as I start moving, it's like your brain knows that it's moving, that it wants you to get someplace, it wants you to get an idea, it wants you to improve yourself right, it just wants you to keep going. And then it like knows, hey, you're moving, you are going someplace. That's a better spot. Um, if there's nothing else that you try out over the next week, just do a 10 to 15 minute walk, whether you listen to a podcast, whether you listen to some songs maybe some upbeat songs, whether you don't listen to anything else and just look at your surroundings. Right, you can meditate, essentially by walking.
Speaker 1:That's just my little tip.
Speaker 2:Just see how that improves your mood, because I can guarantee you it's going to improve your mood a lot, I have to agree, and I'm just going to kind of elaborate a little bit on the walking it's kind of funny.
Speaker 2:That's like what I was going to talk about as well in the first podcast is how impactful and how beneficial walking does for your brain function. I recently saw a stat out there that if you walk, even if it's an incline, walk just a little bit about 30 minutes three times a week it opens up your brain. So I wish I would have I don't know the stats on how much it opens up your brain. Oh, what does?
Speaker 1:that mean Like, what does it mean by it opening up your brain? So what it?
Speaker 2:does, you're gonna think more clearly, you're gonna start remembering a lot more, you're gonna start being able to function more and speak more clearly. And I kind of have to say I believe in that, because I started walking a lot more consistently about within the last year and I would walk on an incline for 30 minutes consistently, about four days a week, and I feel like my brain function is a lot more healthier than it used to be and I feel like I am thinking more clearly, I feel like I'm remembering a lot more and just the way I've been able just to grow as a person or speak, oh my God, it is a major difference, so it's very impactful. So I have to agree with you. Yeah, I just would like to say to the audience maybe something just to try is just just to try. Like you said, 15, 20, even 30 minutes a day, but I was even 10 I would say maybe like two to three days, start off with 10, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2:Like just once a day, yeah, even once a day, or two to three days a week.
Speaker 1:Yeah, just try it out, just make it fit in your schedule if you can.
Speaker 2:We have 24 hours. Give yourself at least 20 to 30 minutes within that time frame just to work on your own mental health, because that really improved mine. So if I could give back, just really try to do something for yourself this week and let us know how it really impacted you.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And we can guarantee you it will impact you, it will have a positive impact.
Speaker 1:Okay, so this wraps up episode one, dude. Yeah, this is this is it. This is huge. Yeah, this is so amazing. We're going to get better and we're going to learn as we go.
Speaker 2:As you can tell, we're very new at this, but it's all right. This is kind of how we are. The way I'm talking to you right now is how we are uh, we're pretty nervous today, we're actually we're very mundane today we're not. This is not how we normally are we're pretty good. So I kind of want to tell the audience how we started this idea of our podcast.
Speaker 1:Actually, you brought it up in in Boston, in Boston, god, boston was a good trip it was so great.
Speaker 2:I was so nervous to commit. I was like my god, I don't know what, I don't know I can fully commit yet, but I I kind of want to do this with you because it's a big change, right? So I was pretty nervous and I wasn't sure if I could believe in myself to really give you what you needed, because I was nervous.
Speaker 2:I was like, oh my god, I don't know if I could perform like that because sometimes just off the record conversations with you, they're so fucking good, they're so good yeah our conversations are amazing, seriously like share what we're talking about, because sometimes it's just really good friend therapy You're helping me in a situation where I'm helping you, and it's like, oh my god, why didn't we record this?
Speaker 1:Literally, literally. Seriously, this is so moving. There were so many times, too, on the trip where, like, we should have recorded this.
Speaker 2:I know and I think we tried. We tried on the boat, on the ferry, on the ferry was really windy, it was really cold and all people were getting seasick.
Speaker 1:It was a nightmare but that technically was our very first episode of the podcast. That was the prequel. We had a great conversation, that whole ferry ride, even though it was like negative one degree out there, but it was great, yeah, it was really cold.
Speaker 1:We went to dunkin donuts afterwards and I think it took us like a half hour to just just warm up in dunkin, whatever the word is um, all right, and and I'm very thankful I'm very thankful to you just as a friend in general, yeah, but I'm also very thankful to you for actually wanting to do this. We want to spread some of the knowledge that we have from some of our experiences.
Speaker 2:This is completely just off the record just friends talking and healing each other. Yes, as as we go on. Yes, every podcast, and we hope that we can do that for you. I hope that you have a friend, like I do with my friend Violet, to go to when you're going through something hard, because, I'm telling you, just having that one friend you could go to just makes a big difference.
Speaker 1:Yes, in the way of how you're going to go about a situation right, I agree, I do have a some champagne that my mom got me for not this past christmas but the one before, and I've been saving it for like a very special occasion you have yeah, oh, and so I think this is the perfect special occasion. Let me get these glasses for us.
Speaker 2:Let's enjoy it there, you you go, of course Hakura Matata, so I like that. That's good. We're gonna just pop some bottles up in here really quick.
Speaker 1:Let me get this music going.
Speaker 2:Let me just tip you off to a whole new beginning. So, cheers, bitch, cheers, bitch, cheers bitch. Thank you so much for listening. We are grateful for each other and you. We want to provide a platform for anyone who is like us and has been misunderstood about their life situation, present or past. If you want to share your stories about being a dink or sink or just being misunderstood, we would love to feature you on our podcast.
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