Give Yourself Some Grace (Ep 2)

In the second episode of Friend Therapy with D!NK and S!NK, your friends, Kristine and Wioleta explore the nuances of living as a D!NK (Dual Income, No Kids) or a S!NK (Single Income, No Kids). We discuss financial challenges such as the 'singles tax,' the benefits and drawbacks of being single or in a relationship, and how to find fulfillment in different life stages. We also delve into the balance between self-improvement and simply living life, as well as the importance of receiving credible advice. We give our thoughts on the existence of perfect marriages and leave you with practical tips for fitness and maintaining healthy relationships. Stay tuned for more engaging conversations and personal growth tips.

00:37 The Financial Realities of Being Single

03:18 The Benefits of Being a D!NK

05:52 Balancing Self-Improvement and Enjoying Life

13:07 The Importance of Credible Advice

15:17 Technical Difficulties and Public Speaking

17:02 Self-Criticism and Personal Growth

18:41 Home Remodeling Journey

20:21 Dating and Personal Confidence

21:33 Fitness Tips and Social Media Balance

25:18 Dynamic Stretching and Injury Prevention

27:12 Wrapping Up and Final Thoughts

28:24 How to Contact Us

Transcript

 📍  📍 Okay. Welcome back!  

 📍  📍 Welcome to another episode of Friend Therapy with D!NK and S!NK. I am Kristine the D!NK. And I am Wioleta, the S!NK. Kristine sometimes calls me Violet. We're so happy that you're here. We are so excited to help you navigate being a D!NK or a S!NK. Stay tuned at the end of the episode for how you can reach us.

We would love to hear from you and have you be a part of the podcast.

 Hi, this is episode two. Hopefully everything has been going well with the audience and We would love to hear back your feedback from the prior podcast about maybe some tips we have provided you 

 📍  📍 Let's start off with talking about being a D!NK or a S!NK in today's world.

 So let's go ahead and get started I do want to talk about this thing called singles tax. And Those of you who are single you definitely know what I'm talking about.

So when you live by yourself, obviously you're paying for everything by yourself Meaning, you know, the mortgage, or if you're renting, obviously you're paying for rent, but all of the utilities, you're also paying for, you know, all of the stuff if you decide to go on vacation, and a lot of single people do also travel by themselves.

Sometimes obviously you go with friends, and then you're splitting costs, but like a lot of times, again, depending on how old you are, and again, the older you get, and you're still single, the more likely you're going to end up having to do solo stuff. And I'm not saying having to do is like a bad thing, because Everybody has to go on a solo vacation at least once.

It's definitely like one of my favorite things to do. But again, it does come with that financial extra cost. I mean, in addition to that, you know, it's like sometimes you can split health insurance. Yeah. With a partner, so you get benefits from that. Single people have to pay for all of it, and you know, when you pay for like a couple people, literally you don't pay as much.

Yeah, you don't pay as much for each person. Fifty percent. Yeah, talking about bundle packages too, even things like, you know, you guys probably have like a Costco membership. I know you guys have a Costco membership. Oh my god. We live on Costco. Yeah. But like for me, it doesn't make sense to get a Costco membership because I would spend so much money on that yearly membership fee and it doesn't, it just doesn't, it wouldn't make sense.

Yeah. It doesn't make sense. But so that's another example of things I spend more money on, like people literally And I forget, I probably should have written down some statistics, but like, I know that people, the singles tax basically puts me at like, probably 20 grand that I'm spending more than I would if I was splitting it with somebody else.

Yeah, makes sense. You know, so that's what sucks. So for all of you guys who are S!NKs, it does suck. It does really, it really does suck. I can see that point for sure. Yeah, you know, it's like that's money I could be putting into like a 401k or a savings account that I don't even have. Correct. Because it's like I gotta live, you know.

I gotta obviously support myself. I gotta make sure I have a roof over my head. Which I do, obviously, I do a good job at it. But it just sucks that, like, I don't have that extra income to put away. Yeah. You know? Or invest or put into something else because it's like, because of the single tax. challenge of that for sure.

Yeah. Yeah. When I'm able to put money into our, you know, Empower, which is, um, you know, where, um, it's like a savings account, but also, too, it's like stocks. You know? Yeah. So I'm able to put money into our stocks. Yeah. Because we both have a, it's a two household income. Mm hmm. It's totally different than just being in a single house and come major challenges with that for sure.

I can see when it comes to saving and things like that, savings and things like that for sure. Yeah. Yeah. I can see that being a struggle for sure. Um, tips for me, is it my turn? Yeah, your turn. We're just waiting to talk. Right? Um, yeah. Just, you know, as just being like a married spouse to somebody, um, my life is completely different than yours is.

Um, what you're used to, you know, in regard to with the savings and what not, obviously I have somebody that I can save with, so I could definitely, um, understand that viewpoint for sure. Um, I'm trying to think if I have anything, I just said um, but for the audience, um, in regard to just, you know, being with someone as a D!NK, um, which is dual income, no kids, I mean, for me it's, it's a little bit more like freeing, and I don't mean to come off in any means rude, but I feel like.

I have the luxury, because I don't have kids, to take a trip whenever I want. I could go to Europe, some families that, you know, um, it just depends on the situation, where some families, you raise your kids, and the wife stays at home, and finances are a little bit more tight, so you're not able to do the travel end.

But for me, it's a little bit more different. So, I would say one of the pros about not having children, um, I don't want to say that it was always a choice, I always wanted kids, but it's just that wasn't God's plan for me. Um, so I learned how to overcome that and I've been living my life to the fullest now, um, enjoying myself without them.

And that's okay. I'm telling you that it's okay if, and you too, that it's okay if it doesn't happen. We'll work through it and we'll still continue to enjoy life by traveling. So that's another plus for me is even though I'm a dink, you know, I still find joy out of life. Like I, I travel. I am able to landscape my house.

I'm able to have wonderful hobbies, um, to fulfill my time, you know, um, Um, that if I were to have kids, I wouldn't be able to do the things that I love, which I completely understand. You know, I mean, some families are just thriving and they're happy and that's what they wanted. Like for me, like I'm, I'm happy to where I'm at and um, I'm just able to fill my time in with things that most people cannot do.

So that's the one thing about being a D!NK I am very fortunate for is to have that time available to travel because a big thing about me is I love to travel. I at least go. four or five times out of the year. Sometimes at least once out of the country. Yeah. Every year, which is, I'm very thankful for that.

Same. Although we do disagree with this point, because I do think you can still travel with kids. No, I agree. It's a totally different way. Yeah, it's a totally different way, though. Yeah, correct. You still can. You know, but I definitely, because we didn't really travel much when I was a child, which I'm not.

But like, I definitely would want to make sure, because I love traveling too, so I don't think I could fully give out that part of know, I agree. You still make the most of it, and you want to introduce your kids to traveling. Get them cultured. Let them experience things that maybe we weren't able to as we were younger.

Because we are very social bugs. Like, we love culture. We love travel. We love soaking in experiences, right? So we would want that for our families, for sure. A thousand percent. Definitely.  

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 📍  📍  📍  Okay, so a hill I'll die on. Um. I always say um. We'll get over it again. It's only our second time. We're so new to this. So much to say. So exciting.

Um, I think it's totally okay to be single and enjoy being single, but also at the same exact time want to be in a romantic partnership.

You know, and I think a lot of the stuff that's thrown at our single, at us, again, we can't talk, at us single people is constantly, you know, if I like complain about being single, somebody's like, well, just love yourself and just enjoy the time. It's like, first I enjoyed that. Again, I do the best I can with the time I'm given, you know, because I go on trips.

You know, sometimes by myself, sometimes with friends, sometimes Family. I don't know, yeah. Yeah. That was the third option. Recently just took a really good one. Yeah, that's true, that's true. Um, you know, and it's like, and I do have hobbies, and Wonderful hobbies. Yeah, and I like, and obviously as you know, and we'll talk about this a little bit later, but it's like I've been remodeling my house.

Like, I do so many things. But what people don't understand, and I'm sure there's some single people who are super happy doing that for a long time. I've just been, and I'm good with being single for like, you know, a year, two years and I'm just enjoying it because I'm, again, improving myself, but we also can't constantly be trying to improve ourselves.

We have to live the life. A hundred percent. There's a balance. Yeah, there's a balance. And I do believe that it's just a biological need to want to be in a romantic relationship. So yeah, I hate it when people are like, well, you just got to love yourself. First of all, I love myself. I love my life, but it's totally fine for me to love the things that I do when I'm single, but also still at the same time want that romantic relationship because it's just, it's just part of our human nature.

And that's what I hate that people don't get. It's like, it's part of our human nature to want to be in a relationship, to want to have like your person. And to feel loved, and to be loved by someone is so huge, as everybody deserves it. Yes. Everybody deserves to be loved by someone, and I know a majority of us do love ourselves, and I know for sure you love yours.

Not everybody though, you know. A majority, you know, but there's a lot of people that still are finding themselves. I think it's a minority. I think it's a minority. I think it's an unfortunate minority. I think a lot of people, especially women, need to learn to love themselves. 100%. And it depends on their circumstances.

Maybe somebody didn't make them feel appreciated. Maybe somebody, you know, tore them apart and now they don't have any love for themselves. So everybody just depends on what their past is like. And what people that were in their past to make them feel a special way. Right, so hopefully that everyone is surrounding themselves by very healthy relationships.

It could be friends, it could be spouses, it could be partners. Um, just make sure you learn to always love yourself first. And if someone's not making you feel loved or seen or heard. Please consider putting yourself first and just doing what you have to do to feel that. Everybody deserves to feel that way.

I agree. And to receive love. Yeah. And in order to give love. You must feel loved. Yeah. 

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 📍 📍 All right. The next segment that we are going to get into is combo starter.

You know? Yes. Yeah. Yeah. I agree. Yes.  Do you have an Oh, is this question going to be harder than the first one? Now I'm nervous. By the way, just so you guys are aware, we do not tell each other what We are going to talk about in each one of these segments, you know, so like when I hit her with my A HILL I'LL DIE ON.

She doesn't know that's what I'm gonna talk about. Correct. When she hits me with these hard questions I don't know. This one is not that hard. So it's probably gonna be harder. It's definitely gonna be harder. So sometimes I like to ask Violet either maybe for the audience of people who are single or like her perspective on, you know, single relationships or her perspective on Marriage, marriage, marriages, healthy relationships, healthy marriages.

So my question to you, friend therapy question of the day, is do you believe that there is a perfect marriage out there? Mmm, I don't think anything's ever perfect, so I don't believe in a perfect marriage, but I do believe that there are people who are more perfect for you. than other people, so in that sense, if you pick somebody who's very compatible with you in your life goals, in attraction, because I do believe that's very, very important.

Girl, I have to agree with you on that 100%. Yeah. One of our lights just went out. That's okay, though. We're gonna roll with it. Yeah, we're gonna roll with it. Um. Like we do in life. That's true. Everything's workable! Jinx she owe me a drink later. Shoot. I got you. No, she doesn't. Just kidding, she definitely does.

She's got the D!NK income, okay? So I got the singles tax. But I'll tell you, as being a D!NK, I got all the money. It's not always there because you're spending extra money on a hot tub, the house, travels. God, it gets expensive. Wow. I know, poor me. Oh my God. Privileged people talk. I work for it. No, you do.

You work hard for it. I really do work hard for it. I'm just, that was a joke. Yes, I know. Um, but yeah, so I do believe, I do believe that, I don't even know if I believe in like the one either, but I do, I mean I do in a sense. Yeah, we've talked about that before. But I do believe that like, there's at least the one for you at different times of your life that needs to get you to the next level.

I have to agree with you on that. Yeah. That's huge. It's like either you're growing together or you'll find people that'll help you get better. Yeah. In different life stages. So I feel like we're growing every two to three years. Oh, that's an interesting thought. Either you're growing with your partner or you're gonna grow apart from your partner.

So hopefully you're on board. Because if not, then you're just going to keep on trucking along and you're going to find people along the way who are going to help you get better. Why do you say two to three years? This is interesting. Because I, I cannot, and I, don't hold me to this, but there was like a statistic that I read that they say every person should grow every two to three years.

As a couple, as a person. Depending on where they're at in life, but that is something that I did read about don't hold me to it But it was like two to three years You are growing and as we should right we always should grow But also, but, I agree with you, you should always grow, but you also don't want to make your whole life about improvement, because I think that that's what like a lot of the self help stuff nowadays, and you open up, you know, Instagram, and there's constantly like, do this to improve your life, do this.

And it's mainly also like, sit back a little bit and enjoy? Yeah, sometimes it's okay, you know, I mean, yeah, there's times in your life where like after a hardship, that's when you probably need to either relax, obviously, because you just had a hardship, or you should Be like, hey, what was my part in that hardship?

What do I need to improve to not be in that hardship ever again? And then that's a time to reflect and like, you know, improve yourself, but in The sphere and this also is about singles too. So I'm gonna kind of throw that in there a lot of times single women not men as much but single women are constantly told to improve.

They're constantly told this is what you should do to, you know. Oh, very interesting. Yeah. And I, you know, and obviously I'm in those circles if you want to call them a circle, but like, it's constantly like, hey, you need to do this with your bio on your online dating profile to make it better. You need to, You know, heal from everything.

You need to do this, do that, and It's like, hey, do you want me to tell you what you need to really improve on? Because I don't know if you have time. There's a whole book. And you want to tell me what to improve on? Okay. Sit down. For sure. But it really is very, like And again, I'm not saying I do believe that self help, self improvement Just any kind of improvement in your life, again, whether it be through therapy, non therapy, whatever it is, you should be improving.

But not throughout your whole, like you need to just live your life sometimes. Yeah, you're right. There's a balance. I mean like it's good to self improve, right? But also finding that balance of enjoying life, enjoying time off. Disconnecting, right? Being off the phones, or just spending time with our loved ones, or focusing on our health, like our health, you know, as well, is important.

But also, too, I think it's important for us not to take advice from people we don't find credible. You should never take advice from anybody whose life you don't want to live. 100%. Ever. Yeah. So that's a big thing that I've been learning is like taking advice from people that doesn't benefit me. Um, it might benefit them, but it wouldn't benefit me.

So like if people are giving me like garbage advice, like I'm just going to keep it in the garbage. I'm not going to take it. That's one thing I'm also learning as well. I think the other big part about taking advice from people is You shouldn't take advice from people who haven't been through your specific situation in that instance.

And don't get me wrong, people can, there are some very empathetic people, there are some people who really know their stuff. However, even the people who are empathetic, this is just my belief, truly cannot understand that situation unless they've been in it. So the advice they're gonna give you might be somewhat decent advice sometimes, I'm not saying it won't be for sure.

But, it's, you know, it's just, if somebody's been through something, they're more credible. Relatable. Yeah, credible and relatable. You know, um, correct. I think, even as like a professor, you know, let's say we're in college, and I'm learning something new, I would want that professor to kind of go through what I am being taught.

Like, let's say it's criminal justice. I would prefer them to be a law enforcement officer, you know, prior to that experience, not them maybe having a different ma like different career field, um, field before that, teaching that class and then teaching me something completely different. I want somebody with a good background.

Mm-hmm . For sure. Mm-hmm . In that. So yeah, I would have to say like, I agree with you on that. Um, I would definitely. I want to make sure somebody's credible and bend through my shoes, you know, walk a mile in my shoes. Yes. Yeah. It just makes it so much better. It's like you guys connect on a different level.

Correct. And they're going to be able to relate. Yes. And as long as they've actually come out of it successfully, right? Because there's some people who don't come out of stuff successfully and then you also need to be very, it's all about discernment too. It is. You need to realize you need to Really rationalize and really break down what people are trying to tell you, you know, and yeah It's take it in and then be like, hey, is this really gonna apply to me?

Is this really gonna help me? Yeah, 100%. Yeah.  

 📍  📍 All right. It's about that time to get into, it's just fish.

 Can I tell you about a it's just fish moment? No

All right, so I just wanted to kind of elaborate on that it's just fish unless we need to go back yeah, okay So this week, I'm usually pretty good at public speaking and doing presentations. But I was recently asked to do a presentation on how to get started in the gym. I made this awesome presentation.

I was so excited to present it. Um, I did have somebody else go in front of me. And I kind of wish I went first because then I would make sure the technology is up to date and working. Uh, so they were great. Well, my time came and my bosses were in the room as well. Technology wasn't working in my favor.

Oh, it never works in your favor. So I wasted so many minutes trying to figure out technology. Oh, so like today, how we wasted like hours. It's just how it happens, I guess. You know, it's just, it's just fish. You just deal with it. So, um, I'm sitting here and I'm trying to get the technology working, and I'm like talking to the audience, getting people laughing, passing out like, you know, flyers and information about getting started in the gym and routines and things like that.

Um, so. I said, um, and I'm thinking about, so I finally got my presentation up and, and going, but I was so nervous. I didn't expect to be so nervous. Usually I'm, I'm pretty okay. You know, public speaking is something that I'm just pretty good at. I'm pretty, I would say I'm pretty good at, I'm pretty comfortable at it.

So nervous, but only one person in the room could tell I was nervous. And she's pretty much like me. We're our own worst critics at times. I can never, I just don't settle. I always feel like I always could do better. I'm kind of hard on myself and I had about maybe 12 people in the room for my presentation and everybody wrote back to me saying I did a great job, very informative, and that it's just, it comes natural to me and that I'm an inspiration to them, which was great to hear, which is, that's kind of like my purpose.

I want to give back to the community and make people feel seen and heard, right? That's a big thing for me and to make people feel comfortable at being their best self. That's something that I enjoy. I like to make people feel like that. But one person in the room that I know, and she's very much like me, and she's like, I can tell you were so nervous, but you did a really wonderful job.

But to me, I take that as like, oh my God, I did terrible. You know, but even though the technology didn't work out in my head, I'm like, it's just fish. It's a workout able. That was my it's just fish moment. But at the end of the day, I feel like I still did a pretty decent job. You know, but I feel like I could have done better.

But again, Violet, it's just fish. It's just fish. I'm going to move on and do better next time. Yeah, and like you said, I'm sure you did great. It's just, we are our own worst critics. We realize, you know, like, my bosses were like, you did fantastic! What are you talking about? Oh, so yeah, you're like extra hard on yourself.

I'm being extra hard on myself. I wouldn't want you to do great, you know, but for me, I just feel like I could have done better. You know, is that something I'm trying to prove on myself? This is To give myself a little bit more credit. More grace. More grace. You know, I think it's okay to give yourself more grace.

Yeah, for sure. So I don't know if anyone else struggles with that. Please let me know. It's just something I've always battled with myself. I try to be nicer to myself. Mm hmm. So that's something I'm trying to improve on as well. Okay. Okay. Yeah, okay. That's a good one to improve on. Yeah. Thank you. I appreciate it.

So I, obviously, as you know, I have been remodeling this house and a lot of things I have done by myself. Not all of it, there are things I have asked other people for help, including your husband, which, thank you. Yeah, anytime. But like, as you, literally, I've lived in this house for a little bit over four years now, and just about the entire time I've been remodeling it.

And, I'm mad at myself And I give myself grace, but like I am mad at myself because the very first year I was dating somebody, so I wasn't working on the house as I should have been. And then I dated another person a few months after that ended and then also wasn't working in the house as much as they should have and I mean I did have them help like a tiny bit with a few things so you know but like overall instead of working in the house I would spend time with them and then the last two years I focused on like not even dating because I'm just like I can't I can't deal with this anymore.

I can't wait to get my house done. Yeah, you know, I can't wait to just not have to constantly see construction. Like, it's been like a construction zone. So, for the audience, this room looked completely different. Um, I would say about like two to three years ago. Yeah, yeah, this was actually, this room was one of the first rooms I actually redid.

It's a great podcast room now. So, you've made this house beautiful. It is totally just like A piece of you, every time I walk in this house, I'm like, God, I'm in Violet's house. Oh, I like that. I'm in your space, and I love it. You know, it makes me feel so welcome, and it's so cozy, and I can sleep on this couch.

This chair, not couch. I have been, like, very creative with This room isn't the most creative, but like, my house, you know, like, I have cool You guys should see the bathroom, it looks fantastic. Aw, thank you. But I've definitely done cool, like I have like, accent walls with like, my paint and like, my meditation room.

I have the cool stuff, the paint job here, but like, the other room, that other room is nicer. It looks really nice. But that's like, my meditation room, that's my like, makeup, just my very chill room. Um. And it is very chill. Yeah. I enjoy it. It makes me want to like, just kind of like, take a nap in there too.

It's so homey and cozy. 

It's been four years of constantly having this on my mind. So 2025 I'm focusing on my hobbies, things I want to be doing. Good.

As you need to start taking care of yourself on the net, which is good. It's going to be so exciting and rewarding. I'm happy for you too. And I'm going to get back out there and dating next week. And I've been putting myself out there in the wild. I've been going out to like dinners by myself. You know, sitting at the bar instead of sitting at like a table, trying to meet men.

Yeah, for sure. I've noticed it too. We have like a girl time. And I, I've never seen you so comfortable and confident in your abilities just to approach a man. And then I'm sitting there and I'm like, kind of like, you know, in my peripheral, like, Get girl! And I'm just like so proud of you, and I'm just enjoying my own company, but I'm like, Yes.

Just seeing you enjoy yourself and just being confident, and the guy is confident with you as well. It's so enjoyable. And me starting, yeah, and me starting conversations because I never used to want to talk to strangers. Just seeing the vibe alive, I love it. Yeah. And I feel like I couldn't be more proud to see that.

Thank you. You're welcome. It's just fish though, you know, I'm not doing much. It's just fish. It's just fish. Yeah, until it becomes bigger fish. But it becomes a bigger fish. A big sea bass. It's just tilapia right now. Hey, I like tilapia. So do I. If it's wild caught. Not, not online. It has to be wild caught.

Yes, yes. Oh my god. Okay. Oh man. This is our call to action. Yeah, this is my call to action. Yeah, why don't you start it out? I did not come up with one, so let me think of something else. Obviously, walking was the call to action next week, and I hope you guys all kind of did that.

 📍  📍 Let's finish strong and enrich your life.

  Um, I would say Doing something active in the morning.

Yes. Agreed. Getting that started right away. Getting your day started. Absolutely. Whether it be walking. So again, it could just be walking. It could be actually going to the gym. It could be going on a run, on a hike. You know, whatever. Just getting yourself out of the house. Yes. You know, getting your heart going.

Yes. Having action, right? Yeah. Having the action of the heart. Doing something. Yes, but like physical not just, you know, because there's some of the things we could be doing But like  a lot of us tend to go on our phones Yeah, you know sometimes definitely should not be doing that every day obviously But but yeah, just getting instead of going on your phone just you know getting up Obviously brushing your teeth if you want to do that before you know for your coffee.

Yeah, definitely before your coffee But just even and even the walking should be done before your coffee, you know, even just a Yeah, like I think you're not supposed to drink coffee till like an hour after waking up. I could be wrong about that, but I will pretty quick. I love espresso and I love the taste of coffee, and I'm kind of a caffeine addict.

Yeah. I love coffee. That's okay. I, I mean, I'm a caffeine addict too. I, I was drinking an energy drink. Oh, it's also our first podcast, you know. That's true. That's true. Calming our nerves a little bit. So I would say my call to action is, I gotta elaborate with you on that. Um, what I've been recently doing is, I, obviously we love social media, right?

That's kind of ingrained in us now. And I love Reels. It's part of our, it's part of our life now. I hate when people say, oh, that's just online. No, it's literally part of our lives. It's part of everybody's lives. I gotta give it to my husband. Like, he's never on his phone. You know, and he'll be like, can you just get off your phone?

You know, and it makes me feel bad, cause like, everyone's sending me reels and I'm laughing my ass off because they're so funny. I'm like, I'm sorry, these reels are just too good! And then you see something like, yeah, they're funny, but just, you know. He's like, no, they're not funny. You know, like, he does find them funny, but There's also like a balance, you know, as being, um, married you gotta spend time with your spouse as well, and you can't forget about them.

You don't have to. I'm just kidding, but you should. Right, right. If you like them, and you do like your husband. And you like and you love your husband. Yes, correct. And those are two separate things. Very true. I just try to be respectful, you know, on boundaries. I'm like, oh my god, I don't want to upset him, you know, because I'm sure if he did to me I wouldn't like that.

So I try to keep that in mind. I, what I've been doing lately is I will, um, before I go to bed, I'm off social media about an hour and a half to two hours before I go to bed and then when I wake up, I actually don't touch social media up to like an hour. I like that. So honestly for me, I feel like it's been good because it's been social media is a huge distraction for most of us.

I've been getting a lot more done. My dogs are much more happier. You know, they've been getting my attention. My husband's getting my attention. So don't forget. About your loved ones, especially friends, family, pets, kids, whoever's in your circle, you know, just don't forget about them. Yeah, so I'm working on that.

I'm trying to be better with my social media usage. I'm on it all the time. And again, it's just addicting and the reels and my friends. That's how we all just communicate, you know, texting is cool. But I also like I'm on Instagram a little bit on snapchat. Not really, but more of the Instagram If you can, just try to learn just to give yourself some grace and at least like an hour before you go to bed and an hour prior to you waking up to not be on social media.

Because you gotta think about the big picture. If we didn't have social media, what's important now? What's important in your life and who's in your circle? Don't forget about them. I have my poor dog sitting by my feet when I'm on my phone, begging for attention. It does break my heart. I'm like, what am I doing?

Get off this garbage. So, try that out and just let me know what you think. I hope that it will improve you as well, as it did for me. Yeah. Yeah. So get active and don't be on your phone. Don't be on your phone. Stay off social media. Mm hmm. It's a huge thing. Man, it's awful.  

 📍  📍 It is now time for a quick fit tip.

 I also want to give them like a little fitness tip.

Yeah, yeah. Do you have your band? Yeah, it's in the other room. Do you want to go grab it? Uh, can you grab it for me? Oh, yeah! Where is it? It's like locked in. Um, you'll see it. It's like a green one. Yeah, it's in that room. Be right back. It's like on the floor. You'll see them. Alright,

I don't know. Let me get by my mic. I don't know if you realize this, but For my workout people, um, especially in the morning, or after work, it just depends. You see this band? It's just, it's just called a workout band. There's some thicker ones, there's some thinner ones, it just depends on what works for you.

But I do recommend that, um, prior to your workout, to stretch out your joints and to stretch out your muscles. So I'll show you, just demonstrate something really quickly that you can do, and you want to just do like 10 rounds each. You could have like 4 to 5 workouts, but prior to your workout, just do some stretches and it'll open up, obviously, your joints and it'll help, like, relax your muscles.

Um, these are called pull aparts, and you just take your two arms forward like this with your palms facing out, and just pull apart, like this. And what you're doing is you're, you're opening up your joints and you're, you know, you're relaxing your muscles. So it's good, um, prior to your workout just to get your muscles stimulated and also opening up your joints.

So I recommend that just if you have a workout band, try 4 to 5  workouts, do 10 reps each and just don't forget about, um, you know, doing that for yourself because then you're preventing further injuries. So it's just kind of part of a dynamic work. It is. Pre workout, whatever it's called. Dynamic stretch.

Dynamic stretch, yeah. I do dynamic stretches before my lifting weights. Perfect. It's good to do. It's good for you. It also just gets the blood flowing. It prevents injuries. Especially at the end of your workout. If you give yourself 5 to 10 minutes of a cool down. Just try to stretch out as well. I'm telling you, any workout band, even like this.

This is great. You can just pull it apart and really just do some. Um, work to your joints and muscles is just imperative for your health, so recommend that. Okay. Try that out. Yeah. Definitely. Okay. Well, before we do our last dance, I just wanted to say again that I am thankful for you. Very thankful for you and also these wonderful conversations we are going to continue to have.

Yes. Yes. And we're already getting better. This is only episode two and I feel like we're feeling a little bit more comfortable because It's gonna get better. Every episode. Yeah, we were definitely very nervous the first time. I was very tense. Yes, yeah, same, same. Oh, and my hair has been kind of a hot mess because we're filming on the same day, these two episodes.

So, you look beautiful. I feel a little self conscious. Nobody else would notice. Again, we're our own worst critics. That's true. So give yourself some grace. Yeah, please give yourself some grace and just be confident. This definitely needs to be the title of this episode. Give yourself some grace. 100%. Okay.

Are we ready to leave on a dancey dancey note? Yeah. I'm ready. Just bring on the music. Okay.